Hi Victoria - Here is an essay I wrote a while ago about my co-counseling community. It may not address frozen need specifically, but the idea is there that when humans have distressing events happen, it can go one of two ways: (1) we can "discharge" the distress by crying, laughing, shaking, telling the story, yawning, sweating, etc. or (2) the distressing event becomes a "recording" that can become a pattern of behavior anytime that distress is "restimulated."

We have some jargon in our community, but not that much. The basic idea is that children are born with the natural ability to discharge distress, but oppression functions by interrupting discharge in order to keep humans from reaching their full potential and accessing connection and intelligence. Thus we get things like "boys don't cry."

Different identities are targeted differently for the suppression of discharge, so we end up having different predictable sets of patterns.

The theory is that with the aware attention of another human, a person can discharge anything - either present time distress or old stuff. And there is always at least one elegant solution to any problem. Those solutions usually involve people working together and connecting and communicating while they do it.

https://medium.com/@gaertner-andy122/a-few-good-men-crying-ade1fea4f3de