Great writing Super Mrs. C! I wanted to Perlmutter the whole essay but I held back. It is all so important.

One part that hit me was you talking about a white-splaining man. I have seen that and done that - in a mixed group of white men and women, where I say what I think is an original thought only for someone to remind me that so-and-so just said the same thing. oops.

I want to do better. I think I need to examine my own sense of superiority. What leads me to think that someone needs to hear me say something?

I was observing my students at lunch the other day and these three white boys were sitting at a table with a Black boy. The white boys were completely ignoring the Black boy. The visibility/invisibility thing starts young.

Thank you for knocking on doors. You might have been in my state for all I know. I'd love to knock on doors with you any time.

I think there is something about whiteness and maleness that wants to control access. It is a scarcity mindset. I think listening to and amplifying Black queer voices is one of the best things I can do as a white straight man.

Thank you!