Been thinking about your story. Rebecca Stevens wrote an essay recently about how her white husband’s friends think she might want to have sex with them because she is a Black woman who has a white husband.

The more I think about it the more sex is messed up by oppression. People who think of themselves “ better than” think themselves entitled to the bodies of people they think inferior.

I wonder how much of what we think of as “attraction” is actually a sort predator activity.?
Likewise from the other side how much attraction is Stockholm syndrome?

I wonder if one reason I’m not attracted to men is that there is no power imbalance.

Then do power imbalances flow downhill? Do men oppress women and women oppress children? Messed up.