A system I have in my personal life is to "step back." When someone is asking something of the group, I grew being the first one to raise my hand. I wanted people to see me and value me. As an adult I keep my hand down when I remember to. I don't need validation as much as I did as a kid, so I just want people to listen to me first out of habit. If I can change my habit to listen first, usually other people say what I was going to say anyway.